Learning how to write an online dating profile that attracts anyone isn’t all that hard. But you aren’t trying to attract just anyone, you want to attract the person who’s right for you. And this can be a bit trickier.
The good news is that after nearly a decade of writing profiles, I can say with fair certainty that my professional profile writers and I have mastered the process.
The aim of Dating Profile Generator is to help you fill that all-important free text field on online dating sites. Give us a feel for the kind of person that you are, and we'll write a description of you in the tone we think you'd take if you bothered to write it yourself. Online dating starts with a well-written, polished profile. Your online dating profile is a personal brand that showcases who you are. An intriguing profile gets conversations started. Conversations lead to dates, dates lead to relationships and relationships lead to “happily ever afters.”. Of course, a dating profile is basically a dating resume. You want to appeal to potential dates. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for something casual or something long-term, your dating profile is the first step. So as the UK’s leading Dating Expert, I’ve decided to write a Megapost all about online dating for women. Writing Your Online Dating Profile. If you've decided to try internet dating after your divorce, the best place to begin is by writing your online dating profile. There is actually an art to writing a good profile that generates the right kind of click. It's similar to how a good resume gets you noticed so you get an interview. From there, people write specifications like they are looking for a piece of furniture. Avoid the usual height, weight, eye, and hair color! Instead paint a picture of the personality of the person you want. This makes your dating profile more interesting to read. #11 Don’t be too choosy, arrogant, and negative.
If you’re wondering how to write an online dating profile, you’re in luck.
Here are seven steps to write a great profile according to professional profile writers:
Step 1: Without the right photos, nothing you write matters.
Sure, this is an article about how to write a profile, but if you don’t have the right collection of photos, even the greatest authors of our time can’t help you.
When putting together your photo gallery, make sure you look flattering in every picture you post. If you can combine this with pictures that also reveal your interests and most attractive personality traits, you’ll have a very powerful photo gallery.
Step 2: Give your profile structure.
See how this article is structured? It’s easy on the eyes because the paragraphs are quick and to the point. You can scan it quickly. If this article was two bulky paragraphs, nobody would read it.
Your profile should be structured in a similar manner. Each “mini paragraph” should tap into a different aspect of who you are as a person.
A sample profile might open with a funny hook, talk about my outdoor interests in the second paragraph, my passion for traveling in the third, my career in the fourth, etc. The point is, each paragraph should tap into a different topic, anecdote, or theme.
Professional profile writers craft profiles that can be read two ways—they can be skimmed for information, but also read like a well-written short story, providing the best of both worlds.
Step 3: Add some bait.
The harder it is for someone to start a conversation with you, the more likely they will move onto the next profile, even if they were otherwise interested. Adding what I refer to as profile bait circumvents this problem by setting the reader up with an easy conversation starter. Let’s take a look at an example:
In the next year I plan on finally exploring Iceland (northern lights here I come!) and taking that long awaited family trip to Italy, but I’m always open to new ideas. Any fun adventures in your future?
The reader of this profile now has multiple entry points to start a conversation. The reader can:
- Ask about my trip to Italy
- Comment on my Iceland trip
- Discuss a fun adventure or idea of their own
- Connect with me on their passion for traveling
It’s a win on so many levels in two short sentences. But it gets even better…
These two sentences also reveal that I like to travel, am open-minded, have a passion for nature, and that family is important to me. Now that’s a lot of bang for your buck.
Bonus Tip: Pictures can be used as profile bait as well!
Step 4: Remove all negativity.
Instead of writing, “If you lack drive, confidence, and aren’t intelligent, please don’t message me,” try, “I tend to get extremely excited by men who are confident, have big goals, and can make me laugh. If you’re the type of guy that also loves to read and get a little geeky sometimes, you may just be my prince charming!”
Never focus on what you fear about online dating or what you don’t want in a partner. Negative energy always attracts negative attention. When someone approaches your profile it should exude optimism, happiness, and portray someone who is excited about the future.
Step 5: Show don’t tell.
Suppose being funny is your thing. If you’re funny, don’t just say you’re funny or that your friends think you’re funny—be funny! This is a snippet from a profile of mine before I was married to an incredible woman:
I can’t seduce you by telling you I play guitar or rock climb.
But I can play a mean guitar on X-Box and successfully get up a mountain on a ski lift, so I think it balances out.
I’ll save a baby on a Monday, and leave my grandmother stranded for the first beautiful girl I see on a Tuesday. Ok, kidding. I don’t save babies. But I am truly sorry grandma.
This is me actually being funny (or as my wife would say, thinking I’m more funny than I am) as opposed to just saying I’m funny. Everyone says they’re funny, interesting, intelligent, and confident online. So don’t just say it. Prove it.
Step 6: Mix it up a bit.
Diversity is an extremely important and attractive quality to showcase. It signals that a relationship with you won’t eventually turn into a boring and lifeless relationship.
People who read your profile want to know that life with you will be fun and exciting going forward. The more interests, passions, and personality traits you reveal, the more people will be drawn to your profile, and the more likely people will be able to find commonalities with you. So add a mix of things!
Step 7: Check for mistakes.
There are a whole lot of moving parts when it comes to creating an online dating profile. Unfortunately, due to all the competition online, one little mistake that goes unnoticed can accidentally sabotage the entire operation.
It could be something as simple as a phrase that accidentally comes across as desperate or needy, a really bad grammar mistake, poor language choice, a misguided picture, negative energy, or any number of the dozens of unintentional red flags that people accidentally display.
Always proof read your profile over and over, get second, third, and even fourth opinions, and never be afraid to self-reflect if you’re not getting any responses.
Writing a dating profile may seem like a daunting task at times, but the truth is that it’s easier than you think. It takes a little time and extra effort, but you can create a profile that helps you stand out and meet the kind of people you’re interested in.
Joshua Pompey has been crafting profiles for men and women since 2009. Learn more about his profile writing services:
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Here are some great, easy-to-copy dating profile examples & profile photo optimization tips for gents and ladies.
Writing A Dating Profile About Yourself
Feel free to mix, match, and edit these dating profile examples as needed to suit your situation.
Writing Dating Profiles For Men
Dating Profile Example # 1: Three things
An essential rule of thumb when creating your dating profile is to think of yourself as a product.
What are the best keywords to describe what “you” are, and what you’re into? (Ex: An engineer? A creative? An athlete/fitness enthusiast?)
Second, what is the “consumer” getting if they “buy”? (Ex: Your contagious enthusiasm for life? A good listener? Interesting conversation about books? Boozy campfires? Raucous club outings?)
These dating profile examples show that you don’t need to list everything there is to know about you.
Your bio is just an ad, so you want to pique interest, and leave the meaty getting-to-know-you stuff for chats and dates.
List three interesting things about you (interests, hobbies, goals) to make people curious and want to swipe right to find out more.
Examples
Astrid, 26
Kava enthusiast. Wannabe climber. Roomba owner.
Jesse, 27
Amateur Lego builder. Terrible cook. Aspiring snowboarder.
Dating Profile Example # 2: “Ask me about…”
Brevity is your friend, friend. A concise one-liner comes across as confident and self assured, like you know what you’re about and have nothing to prove.
Use this short and simple “Ask me about…” template to steer your chat convo toward that one weird interest or fun fact about yourself you’re dying to share.
Examples
Taylor, 27
Ask me about my sleight of hand
Jude, 23
Ask me about my cat’s tricks.
Dating Profile Example # 3: Movie quote
Referencing movies or tv shows is a really great way to engage on a dating app. Even though you’re strangers, you’re already connected through this shared social consciousness, so swipers will automatically feel positively towards you.
Examples
Heather, 22
I’ll have what she’s having (When Harry Met Sally quote)
Derek, 25
Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. (Ferris Bueller’s Day Off quote)
Dating Profile Example # 4: Greater than/less than
These dating profile examples of the “greater than/less than” template show that you can reveal a lot about your interests and sense of humor without penning a multi-volume autobiography.
Are you always down for a good-natured debate? Rousing convo? This format is a great way to express an unpopular opinion or slightly tease about a topic you know people feel strongly about.
Writing Dating Profile Examples For Women
Examples
Claudia, 24
Captain America > Thor
Mark, 26
My Sunday roast > your mom’s Sunday roast
Dating Profile Example # 5: Quirky Interest
Got an unusual interest or passion? Your dating profile is the perfect place to reveal this little-known fact.
Sure, maybe not everyone will love that you keep track of your Minecraft progress in a spreadsheet or secretly take salsa lessons, but the people who do respond are already really going to be picking up what you’re putting down.
There’s no sense in hiding your quirkiness or nerdom. You may as well focus on attracting those who will jive with you than going for worldwide mass appeal.
Examples
Ferrin, 25
My labelmaker is the single best purchase of my 20s so far.
Rory, 29
I may or may not use the Dewey Decimal System for my home library.
Even the best bio won’t make up for unattractive pics 😕
If your pics don’t look good, your dating profile doesn’t stand a chance at getting much notice, unfortunately.
Pro tip: Before you start swiping, run your dating profile pics through Photofeeler to see how women or men are responding to them.
Tell About Yourself Dating Sample
Choosing your profile pics this way has been shown to significantly increase match rates and match quality.